follow the crowd

Scholares believe that the word sex is related to the Latin word secare, which means "to sever, to amputate, or to disconnect from the whole". This is where we get words like sect, section, dissect, bisect.

Our sexuality, then, has two dimensions. First, our sexuality is our awareness of how profoundly we're severed and cut off and disconnected. Second, our sexuality is all of the ways we go about trying to reconnect.
Rob Bell, sex god, p. 40

Bell plays pretty fast and loose with the concept of sexuality in this book, essentially broadening the definition for sex to mean any way in which people connect with each other. Outside of a general ickiness when one thinks of that in connection with some kinds of relationships (parent/child, buddy/buddy, siblings), he gets rather confusing in his use of the term.

These moments (special moments) move us because they have a sexual dimension. They help us become reconnected. They go against our fallen nature, which is to be cut off.

This is why music is so powerful...

Music is powerful because it is sexual. It connects us...The experience of a great concert--with everyone singing together, waving their hands in the air, and a feeling of oneness permeating the room--has a significant sexual dimension to it.
p. 41

This is a confusing play on language. There is simply no need to start using sexual language for any of these things.

Plus, one can question whether any of those experiences is necessarily good in and of themselves. For example, he refers to what he experiences at music concerts. I can think of something like Woodstock, quite infamous for drugs and sex.Did that "feeling of oneness" maybe cause some people to loose their inhibitions and their minds, and do things they later regretted (or should have regretted)?

Or what about other concerts, where the "feelings of oneness" led to senseless violence?

What he seems to be writing about seems more like a group mentality, or mob mentality, where individualism is lost for a time in some kind of collective drive, be it to sex or violence or what have you. Far from glorying in those experiences, there seems to be reasons to view them with at best skepticism.